Building your Soft Life
Building your Soft Life doesn't have to be hard.
Have you recently consumed content about living a soft life? The soft life trend has been taking over social media but here's the thing.. it doesn't have to be just a trend. A soft life is all about living in a way that brings you peace and relieves you of stress. This may come easy for some, but if you're looking to build your soft life, then you've come to the right place.
In 2023 I started working towards living a softer and more peaceful life, and after about a year of trial and error, I've finally started to find my own habits that make my life softer and more peaceful. The aim of a softer life is to find habits that work best to help you relax and and be at peace, but it takes work and time to get there.
(01) Give Yourself Grace
Building the soft life of your dreams will come with trial and error, frustrations and difficult times. There's no one-size-fits-all with building our dream lifestyles, so the best advice I can give you is to give yourself grace during this period.
(02) It's Okay to Let Go
I'm talking specifically about letting go of things you used to enjoy but no longer do, or things you once wanted but no longer want anymore. This is a great time to reflect on the things you once enjoyed but aren't sure of now. As we grow older the things we once wanted or enjoyed can change, and while some may see it as a sign of "getting old” I like to look at it more as a sign of becoming a new person.
(03) Try New Things
If one thing isn't for you, then thats a sign to try something else. For instance, if yoga doesn't excite you, maybe try pilates or barre, but one thing I will urge you to do, give things a chance. Don't just try one yoga class and give up, try 5 instead. Trying new things and giving them a chance allows you to immerse yourself.
(04) Rules to Achieve your Soft Life.
These are for moments you might fall off the bandwagon. For example, I only allow myself to take a break from my habits one day in a row before jumping back in. So if you set up a goal to go on a hot girl walk daily, and you wake up one day feeling not so great, allow yourself one day off with the intention of getting back into it tomorrow.
(05) Set those Boundaries!
This is possibly one of the most important aspects of building a soft life, and it’s to set up boundaries that allow you to achieve peace. Your boundaries can be anything you deem to be important to you as long as they help you build peace. For example, it could be not answering calls after 9pm or having one solo day a week. Boundaries are there to protect your peace.
A soft life comes with a lot of trial and error. It ebbs and flows and allows you to reach your dream life, living peacefully. For some it means lighting some candles and reading a good book, for others it means hosting a cozy girls night in. It could also mean going to a yoga or pilates class every evening for the sake of your mental health or traveling for six months. As long as you finally start to feel at peace, that’s all that truly matters.